Vicklo, 1990

Five "D"s for unsuccessfully dealing with loss:

1.	Denial of the loss;
2.	Distortion of the experience by overglorifying or overidealizing it;
3.	Denigration of activities or relationships connected to the experience as a way to avoid pain;
4.	Distraction to avoid thinking about the loss;
5.	Detachment from activities or relationships abruptly as an illusion of being empowered or in control.

Five "D"s for successfully dealing with loss:

1.	Determine ways to make the transition a gradual process (not always possible);
2.	Discover the significance activities, people, and places have had in your life;
3.	Describe this significance to others;
4.	Delight in what has been gained and what may lie ahead;
5.	Define areas of continuity in your life.